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Kathryn Shasha reviewed TOP Martial Arts and Fitness for Life
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When I needed to get in shape for television pilot season; Ellen was the person that drove me to be my very best above any other trainer I ever had. I had the privilege of being trained by her during my Kick Boxing Ultimate Training (KUT program). She not only taught us to perform the movements safely, she motivated us to get the results we wanted. And above all...she always made it fun! She has an amazing personality and her nonstop energy is contagious. I looked forward to every class. I HIGHLY recommend her for any fitness/Karate program. She is the best!

Krista Gambino-Seymour reviewed TOP Martial Arts and Fitness for Life
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My kids began taking karate about 5 years ago. My kids are not at all into sports or competitive but I am so glad they went. They grew so much in their confidence and inner strength. This was in part of their Masters and teachers. Master Ellen, however, was one who took my daughter under her wing. She recognized immediately when she was feeling anxious or sad. Her pep talks were so heartfelt and meaningful to her and for that, I am incredibly grateful.

It was not much longer when I joined in school’s KUT program. It was such a motivating group and the instructors were so encouraging and supportive. There was a point when I was feeling very discouraged about my progress (lack of). Master Ellen immediately pulled me aside and helped me through that period. Her words of encouragement and her belief in me stays with me to this day.

I am so glad she is taking this amazing venture. Master Ellen is truly gifted and a wonderful individual with a caring soul. She is an excellent and fun (my kid’s words) instructor.

Karen Vega reviewed TOP Martial Arts and Fitness for Life
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Ellen is one of the most kind, caring, determined and unforgettable people you will ever meet. I met Ellen in 2003 when she was my daughter Airiel’s Hapkido instructor. Ellen was a consistent instructor during the 10 years Airiel trained. While Airiel was training for her Black belt Ellen would come in and work extra hours to make sure she was ready for her test. There were many times Airiel would have given up if it wasn’t for Ellen helping and guiding her through. Over the years Ellen has become more than an instructor for us; she is someone we can both truly call a friend.

Deb Trevelin reviewed TOP Martial Arts and Fitness for Life
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Three years ago I was looking for a fitness class that was not a gym. My cousin recommended that I try the KUT program with her. I had never done kickboxing, but a couple of my friends had and thought I would like it. They were right.
That’s where I met Master Ellen.

She has great patience in showing the correct form and would come over to my bag to “fix” me if I was doing something incorrectly. Encouraging me by letting me start at my own pace yet motivating me to keep up with her once I figured out what I was doing.

When I started I could not do a full push up, with the training motivation my highest was 42!!

Her energy invigorates, motivates and encourages you to do your best…. You will feed off her energy!!

Airiel Vega reviewed TOP Martial Arts and Fitness for Life
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I started training in 2003, when I was six years old, so I have known Ellen for most of my life. She is one of the most amazing people you will ever meet and I am lucky to say that she is more than just my instructor, she is family. Throughout the years of training, she pushed me when I needed it most and helped me every time I asked. She trained me through both of my black belt tests and I know I couldn’t have done it without her. She didn’t just look at me as a student, but as a friend and it made the world of a difference to me. She makes you feel like you’re her number one priority and ensures that you’re at your fullest potential. Anyone who meets or works with Ellen is lucky because she will have a huge positive impact on your life.

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How to Avoid Being a Victim of Bullying

Bullying has become an epidemic in recent years. Yes, there have
always been bullies, and yes, those bullies have always caused serious
and lasting damage to their victims; however, bullying in the 21st
century has changed – and not for the better.
According to Pacer’s National Bullying Prevention Center, one in four
students has reported that they were bullied during the school year and
14.8% of high school students in the United States have reported that
they were bullied online.

The consequences of bullying can be devastating. Victims are more
likely to experience a decrease in their academic performance, anxiety,
depression, and behavioral problems.

Being that bullying is such a rampant problem in the United States,
children need to be presented with methods that will teach them how to
combat being the victim of the name calling, teasing, and harassment
that are associated with bullying behavior.

How can kids avoid becoming the victim of a bully? Here are some tips
that can be highly effective.

Be Confident
Typically, bullies tend to prey on those who appear to lack confidence
and who are unsure of themselves. If a bully sees that someone is
lacking confidence, he or she is more likely to target that individual and
harass that person.

Being confident is one of the most effective ways to avoid being bullied.
Kids need to have inner confidence, and they need to be able to project
that confidence outward. Parents can help build their children’s
confidence by building them up and supporting them. When children
know that they are valued, they automatically have confidence. Kids can
exude their inner confidence by standing tall, making eye contact, being
friendly and taking pride in their appearance.

Gain the Support of Friends
One or two great friends is worth more than 100 fair-weather friends.
This is especially true if someone wants to avoid being bullied.
Kids should pick their friends wisely, and should gather their support.
Remaining in contact with those friends – walking down the school halls
with them, sitting with them on the bus, or eating with them in the
cafeteria – will prevent a bully from targeting a child. Typically, bullies
tend to take aim at children who are ‘loners.’ Support from friends is a
highly powerful force against bullies.

Stand Up for Yourself
If a bully does start to attack, a child should not only know that it is OK
to stand up for him- or herself, but that standing up must be done.
If a child encounters someone who is saying or doing hurtful things, that
child should exert his or her inner confidence, stand tall, look the bully in
the eye and tell him or her to stop it. Once the child tells the bully to
stop, he or she should walk away and move on. Letting the bully see
that he or she has impacted the victim will only make him or her feel
successful, which will make him or her want to try again.
Kids have the power to stop bullies, and martial arts help them find that
power. By following these tips, children can avoid being the victim of
such cruel behavior and avoid the lasting consequences of bullying.